A change is as good as a rest, and seeing as I have used up all my rest time of late it is time for the aforementioned change. Up until now this blog has been about me and my thoughts. I say up until now as morethanwhips is branching out.
The kink factor will remain but having met so many wonderful folk on twitter I decided to share my space with them. First up is the delightful Diana Von Ring who has kindly agreed to answer a few questions for MTWAC.
Diana as a professional Mistress who operates out of premises in Walsall in the West Midlands. I was about to say she is also very damn hot, but you can see that for yourself in the photos she has kindly shared with us.
So, Miss DVR, tell us a little about yourself? How long have you been a pro Domina?
I’ve been into kink and all things related since I was around 18/19. I first started camming and doing occasional modelling at that age and started out on the fetish scene as a submissive but soon found it wasn’t for me. The last 4 years I’ve been nurturing and honing my Dominant side but it wasn’t until 2017 I decided to make a real go of it. I was a Tattoo Apprentice in my vanilla life as well as a studio manager, so it’s never been about the money. Once I found myself thinking about it 24/7, unable to focus on my art because I was putting so much time, energy and devotion into this, I came to the realisation this is exactly where I want to be, where my heart is and where my true passion lies, I haven’t looked back since. I’m incredibly grateful that Mistress Katerina reached out and offered to work with me to teach me everything I’d need to know. This isn’t something I feel should be rushed or taken half heatedly. Everyday is a school day and I intend to still be learning as well as dishing out the punishments from my wheelchair at 90.
Do you have a speciality at all or are you a Mistress of all trades?
I don’t have a speciality per se as I think that will develop naturally in time. However, the things I enjoy the most at this moment in time include pegging, harsh corporal punishment, cbt, wax play, and feet/shoe worship (you can add CEI to that also as that naturally follows the worship).
It seems social media is awash with horny submissives, do you have any advice on how they might endear themselves to a Domina and stand above the crowd?
STOP THINKING WITH YOUR DICK! First and foremost!! This is so important, if you’re seeking a Mistress and you’re going down the online route, think with your head and your heart. Wank before you log on if you need to but you’ll always find a shift in priorities once you learn that thing in your trousers isn’t going to do you any favours. Manners also, it’s still somewhat surprising the majority of males that forget how important manners are when speaking to a Mistress. I always find a respectful and polite introduction, a ‘how are you’ or even if you’re shy and unsure how to approach, send a small tribute and it will never go un-noticed with any Mistress. If you approach with ‘I want blah blah’ , unsolicited photos, demands, rudeness, sexually explicit messages etc you will look like a horny twat and will simply remain ignored.
How and when did you realise you had sexually dominant tendencies?
It wasn’t something I don’t think I ever ‘realised’ in that sense as I’ve always been dominant in every aspect of myself. For me, it’s been more of a long process of acceptance and development. It wasn’t until I attempted to start out on the scene as a submissive (for reasons unknown) that I discovered a very natural, dominant sexual power to myself.
Is there a scenario or activity you haven’t partaken in as yet that appeals to you?
Lots and I can’t wait to indulge! Strap on parties, Forced Bi parties, filming, 3+ Domme sessions, touring, pony play, different variations of rope bondage and suspension. There’s still so much to explore and I know the list will only continue to grow with my experience.
How can a sub differentiate between a good Domina and an insta-Domme with a twitter account thinking it’s easy money?
Research and using your brain are key. Does she have a website, does she comply with SSC, RACK etc, does she demand money before you’ve initiated a conversation or beg for rent, is she commenting on every post with a Findom hashtag saying DM me, does she display true dominance or is she just abusive, does she have professional photos or are they all taken from a bedroom with a snapchat filter. There is so much to cover, it’s all about using your goddamn common sense and if you haven’t got any then you should stay well away from BDSM, Findom, Femdom, all of it. It’s worth mentioning there’s good and bad on both sides of the coin, as long as you engage your brain, you’ll do just fine.
What are your thoughts on Findom?
I won’t ever claim to know everything as we’re all still learning but this is just my humble opinion at this current moment in time, my mind is always open to change. In the right hands, it’s wonderful on both accounts, all of my owned subs participate in some form of Findom with myself whether it’s them purchasing my lunch for the week, taking me shopping for session supplies, allowing me to budget for them to the n’th degree including internet banking, or even just sending because they feel it’s the right thing to do. It’s a huge part of servitude for me and I think it might be for most Dommes, however there’s such a shitty stigma with it that many are put off indulging in it. The way I see it, it’s a great way of gauging a person, their intentions, how genuine they are regarding submission, and many may think ‘how, it’s just money’ Well it isn’t just money, it’s one of the most powerful tools in the world, if not THE most powerful, and I say tool because that’s what it is, in findom play specifically its a tool, NOT a goal. Often used in power play to establish a strong dynamic between a Mistress and her sub, it’s a very distinct, authentic and direct way to establish power and control over a person. As it’s such a broad spectrum, it’s hard to define what exactly Findom is in 2018 if you’re basing it off the way it’s used with social media and the exposure it’s had in recent years with the press, however from my knowledge and opinion it’s main use is for long term 24/7 D/s relationships where the Dominant controls every single aspect of the slaves life including finances, for some their most sacred possession, the actions in its self speak volumes. I can only speak for myself on this but I thoroughly enjoy it and within it’s limits, and ensuring non consenting parties aren’t involved, it gives me one of the greatest feelings of power from my boys. It allows me to see they’re engaging with me for no other reason than to gift me with full control and please me. It shouldn’t be abused in anyway shape or form, and the person in receipt of tributes is JUST as responsible for ensuring all play is SSC and without risk to either party.